Over time, a number of people have said to me, “Okay, I get it, you’re a White guy married to a Black woman, and you have a Biracial son. It’s enough. You don’t have to keep talking about it.” You’re right. I don’t have to. I’d be happy to stop.
There’s just one problem.
You keep talking about it.
And, when I say “you” I don’t mean “you” I mean all the other “You” out there – the ones for whom race is still an issue. For you, I keep talking about it. And, I’ll keep talking about it and talking about it until:
1. People stop asking us what race our son is.
2. People stop asking us whether my wife is the nanny.
3. How my son will get treated by the cops will depend on whether his skin gets any darker and his hair gets any curlier.
4. Liberal white people with advanced degrees stop pretending they “don’t see color.”
5. The day a Cheerios commercial with a multiracial family doesn’t cause a sh*tstorm of hate mail and racial epithets.
Until then, you’re gonna have to put up with me talking about it.
129 Comments on “Don’t See Color”
I get it. I agree. It’s the only way we’re ever going to get beyond it all…
Thanks for writing in and for the support! All the best!
I love the interracial relationship
It’s Beautiful, I wish I was in a relationship
Like yours and I wish you both the best
In raising your son and strengthen your marriage.
Thanks so much for writing and for the support!
Good for you!!!
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Thank you for writing this! Especially number 4!
Glad you read and enjoyed! Thanks for writing in!
Please, never stop talking about this! It need to be heard! Although I did not marry out of my race, I know how it is to date out of my race and to be talked about as if i’m nothing and he was a sell out! I commend you for speaking your heart on this matter! Until it end….keep speaking!
Thanks for the support and for sharing your story! All the best!
HEAR! HEAR!
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Alex I love who you are and what you stand for……I’m loving how you love your family and how protective you are of them. My family is biracial, German, French Canadian, Irish, Puerto Rican and Dominican, and Black…….we are a melting pot and we love it. Keep doing what you do !!!
Thanks so much for the love and support and for sharing your family’s story about your own “melting pot”! All the best to you!
KEEP TALKING ABOUT IT!!!! Thats great though seriously I love this. I appreciate your tenacity in the face of resistance.
Thanks so much!
Hey Alex, I’m biracial, 30 years old and grew up in the South. I have great hope for you and your family, and I believe that inspite of all the aweful stuff that lies in wait for people of color out there, you’ll find that things will only get better for you and your family as they did for mine. I love following your posts, so KEEP TALKING! People like you and your wife are the ones who are REALLY out there making a difference. I don’t know you, but I have so much love for you and family and it’s good to know that there are other people out there who REALLY care. We’re all connected, and I believe you truly know that.
Thank you for writing in and for the love and support! Thanks too for sharing your own story! It’s much appreciated!
Nope you can’t get off that easy. You can do something to rock the whole situation but you may not have the personal courage to do so….Start a movement for your child to be considered white by other white people. Then people will “stop seeing color”. I say this because I work in an office with folks from the middle east who are blacker than my children and yet they are accepted as white, An asian and a white person have a child and that child, no matter what they look like can “be white” but the fruit of a white person’s loins, IF THEY HAVE A PARENT WHO IS THE DECENDANT OF SLAVES< NO MATTER HOW FAR REMOVED THEY ARE FROM BEING 100% African, that child will never be considered "white" not even by their parent. Why lament about everyone's elses attitude while you continue to protect America's archaic definition of "white".
Speak the truth! Well said.
Thank you
That Cheerios tempest was unreal. This is 2014, you would think interracial families would be a non-issue but that brot the reality home. We are only about 15%. The more exposure we put out there that interracial families are normal, that ppl don’t have to limit themselves to their own skin color and that you can have a normal family of a black parent, a white parent and a biracial child eating Cheerios then no one will notice that you are even talking about race. Fact is you are talking about your family.
Good for you. Very happy you’re proud to have the life people hate to admit they envy you for, true happiness with someone your heart longed for, the love of your life, not just a sister.
Thanks for the support!
Good for you. Very happy you’re proud to have the life people hate to admit they envy you for, true happiness with someone your heart longed for, the love of your life, not just a sister. Be happy.
Thanks!!
love and like who you like forget what other people say cuz at the end of the day it is all about your wife and yall baby. A blessing
Thanks so much!
Awesome answer! Love it!
Thanks!!
CommentI so totally agree with you. My daughter is married to a black man and I have 5 beautiful grandchildren. I am always getting stupid quistions or even stupider looks. I don’t give a darn what color Nate is, only that he treat my daughter and grandchildren good. My daughter has the very best husband in the world and there is no better father to those children in the whole world. He is also a very hard worker and excellent provider. Retired after 20 years in the Army, and wounded in Afghanistan. You can read their FB pages to see why I am so darn proud of him and my daughter, Naomi Mulqueen Johnson and Jay Johnson.
Excellent! Thanks so much for sharing your story!!
RESPECT!!
Well said! I love interractial couple. Let the haters be, that’s what they do best. Keep talking about it until they stop questioning. Be blessed with your family!
Thank you for the love and support!
That’s exactly right! People will always, always fan the racial flame, yank the racial card and make endless suggestions for you; but here is what the majority fail to realize: Underneath the epidermis we are all exactly the same, created equal and make in God’s image. And the last time I checked; God cannot make a mistake. We do not serve a corrupt God and all of His creation has purpose!!
Thank you!
I met a young lady once and she was one of 10 children her white missionary parents had adopted from the different countries they had visited; and I’ve never been more amazed. She told me people always ask where she’s from and if her brothers and sisters were kin to her…after that I’ve wanted children that were different color and now I have 2 biracial white/black children who look nothing alike. One is dark with black curly hair and one is lighter with blonde hair and I feel so blessed and proud that they are completely different and it’s fun shocking some people when they find out they are my children…and that’s something I will be proud to talk about for the rest of my life and theirs. Unfortunately different color people in the world is not always celebrated by some but I feel color should be one of the most cherished and appreciated things about human life. I love different colors and will always celebrate it!
Thank you for writing in and sharing your story!
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Keep them coming Alex!
You bet I will!
I am an example of a black married woman to my half Italian half white husband and my family never had to talk about it. My mom loves her son in law in every way possible. I think the talking is the judging of biracial couples and mixed children. They are not even entitled to do that except for God and he sees no color. They will pay for what they are doing soon.
I heard about the Cheerios commercial and it’s ridiculous that ppl still feel that way! It’s getting them nowhere!
I understand how you feel. Remember that God only sees the good in you and your family.
My friend I applaud your efforts! Way to go! My German husband and I have been married 21 years with 2 beautiful boys and so I know all to we’ll what you are saying here.
Keep God center in your family and all will be OK.
my
Mat God bless you all.
Funny how I go thru the same things you go through but
Have been dealing with it for about 25 yrs.
Now…my oldest is 24, I have 13 kids 6 grandkids
And only 1 all Caucasian daughter…
Always same questions, same stereotypes
Same ol same ol…but I have one up on you as well
I also am heavily tattooed and own a tattoo studio
So people are looking really funny and assuming
I been I. The chain gang?!?! Now I have gotten
Speeding tickets before., but never In jail…smh!
This world will never end racism or stereotypes!
Yes! Being a multiracial woman with “light skin” and “good hair” I feel where you’re coming from, but from the prospective of what your son will have to endure. People will always talk and ask, but the one thing that you and your wife gave your son that others won’t have is the strength and endurance to keep pressing on no matter what! You all will give him the drive to have an attitude filled with low tolerance for ignorance and stupidity. He will see people truly for who they are without having as much prejudice as many would. However, by the time he is of adult age, thankfully the world will have a different view of interracial families! 🙂
Thanks for writing in and sharing!
Beautiful family. Enjoy your life.
Thanks so much!
Keep talking Alex.
Comment I agree with his editorial. I have friends of all race and color. Most are better than white people. I sincerely hope that someday it will not be even a topic. I want my future generations to never see color. Remember God put these colors on earth and how we street each other is one of his tests.
Believe me- as a black and mexican woman – growing up (i have a spanish name) people will always ask those type of questions- although i would love for people to simply ask me when im from and accept – oh im from Portland Oregon- not “no but where are you REALLY from?” lol or is this my real hair? lol i think because people look at people to fit into a cookie cutter of what a race should look like and if youre biracial or multiracial than you HAVE to choose a culture to associate with- those questions wont stop- goodluck man – living multiracial is a def challenge:) much love for you & your family:))) Comment
Thanks so much for writing in and sharing your experience! All the best!
Thank you! This needs to be said because people are still so clueless. ..a black president doesn’t mean racism doesn’t exist
So true.
I couldn’t have said it better myself. Why is race always the question? How about we are all a part of the Human Race! Keep talking about it! Racism is alive and well across all races.
Thanks so much for the support! Rest assured, I’ll keep talking.
I am married to a Sierra Leone lady , we have a beautiful strong boy, I really don’t worry and don’t care to any comment from people, we are happy and that,s all
Thanks for writing in and sharing your story! All the best to you and your family!
Wow. People are such assholes.
Gotta say AMEN to this response! I would like to add – we will stop talking about it, when the hatred of those who falsely report images against a multi-racial Facebook site, and get it shut down based on lies NO LONGER OCCURS. When everyone finally sees that hating someone else because of skin color is ignorant, stupid and a waist of valuable time and energy, then we can stop talking about it. Love conquers all, and is the strongest energy in the universe. Perhaps that is why ignorance and evil tries so hard to destroy it. But love will NEVER be destroyed.
True.
AMEN!!
To that I’ll say – AMEN!
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I love it. KEEP talking about IT until THEY stop talking about IT.
Absolutely!
Do you have a brother like you? 😉 I love it, keep talking!
Sorry, no brothers. But thanks for writing in and for the support!
That’s right so keep talking if we never shut up things will change sooner or later good to here from you again!
Thanks so much for the ongoing support!
keep talking as loud and as long as you want and i will too great to here from you again blessings to your family!
To me you are just another beautiful family!! God bless!!
Thank you!!
Comment Alex, I understand your anger, I once lived it. But we live in a very cruel and evil world. Some of us get it, and some don’t. Enjoy your beautiful wife and son, and don’t worry about the sicko’s, they’ll never get it.
Love doesn’t come in colors, it just comes. God wants us to love one another as he loves us, but so many people just don’t get it.
You and your family our my brother and sister in Christ. I wish the absolute best for your union.
Thanks for the love and support!!
Good for you! Those are great events that will warrant the conversation to stop! Glad you spoke out! Beautiful Family!
Thanks for writing in and for the support!
I agree with everything you said here, especially the “don’t see color” statement! My husband and I don’t have kids yet, but it sounds about right. You go right on and keep talking about it! 🙂
Thanks for the support!
Comment AMEN!!!
Keep talk’n Alex… I like catching your posts.
Very cool! Thanks so much!
I love your post!!! Keep talking about it because I enjoy reading about it. I get weird looks because I m a black female dating a white guy!!! Love is love not a color.
Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for writing in! Thanks for the support!
I have a mixed up family. I want people to be blinded so they have no choice but to see with their hearts!
Comment——The only thing that will stop racial problems in this country,is inter marriage,like it or not,that’s the answer-good for you and your wife,and your beautiful child
You have a beautiful family! And u are right that we all should talk about it until we don’t have to talk about it anymore! 🙂
Theresa Cardazone
Thank you so much!
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Very well said! You have a beautiful family!!
Thank you so much!
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